By Mel Sim for Yahoo! Southeast Asia | Mon, 6 January 2014
Bad habits are fine if you’re living by yourself. But if it involves a significant other, it can become a hindrance to your relationship progressing into anything serious. Nothing kills a relationship faster than bad habits that either irk your partner or create unnecessary tension between the two of you. And like it or not, most of us ladies have some really annoying habits that can drive him up the wall (and away from you).
Read on to see if these habits are familiar and find out how to get rid of them.
One minute it’s about his laundry. Next, it is about his good-for-nothing friends. Tomorrow, there will be something else that you will be nagging about. And there’s no stopping you! Nobody wants to feel like they are dating their mothers or that whatever they do is not good enough. And with nagging also comes the bad habit of wanting to change your man, whether it is with his appearance or the way he handles his career or personal life.
You don’t have to nitpick every little thing in his life. Just focus on the big things (for example, if he should be a little more proactive with his job and don’t nag, but encourage instead). You don’t want him to look at you when you are nagging, wondering why he’s putting up with being chided all the time.
2. Spending way too much
Research shows that one of the most common thing couples fight about is money. And when there’s lack of it, the fighting becomes even more consistent. So if you and your guy are trying to save up for a house or a holiday, going on a shopping splurge is not going to please him, especially when he’s the only one saving while you are spending. If you are married or working towards that, your impulsive spending will send his cue that he’s building a life with someone who has little regards for financial stability in the future!
Sit down together and work out a budget that you are comfortable with. And stick with it! There’s no point to this if you find yourself having to hide your purchases. You’ll soon realize how much money you’ve wasted when all that can be used towards building financial security together.
3. Just a little snoop
Sure, it’s one little peek into his text messages at first but as curiosity gets to you, you’ll find yourself complete engrossed into his every private life, from his emails to his Facebook messages! Spying on your guy is never a good thing, especially when a healthy relationship is based on trust. Besides, you wouldn’t want him to be looking through your stuff with a fine-tooth comb either. And imagine if he finds out what you’ve been doing, especially when he has nothing to hide in the first place? If you’re sure he’s hiding something, then either confront him and if you really can’t trust his word, what are you still doing with him in the first place?
4. One small lie
What’s one white lie, right? Well, it is one lie that can lead to another and another and another. Whether you’re lying over what you really think of his new hair cut or how you were actually with your friendly ex instead of your BFF last night, it’s never good to hide things from your partner, big or small. This shows that you either don’t trust him or that you are hiding something you know for sure will make him really upset should he ever find out (which he is most likely to!)
The key to a lasting relationship is openness and honesty. You’d want him to treat you with the same respect so why not offer him the truth? Nobody likes to feel like they’ve been taken for a ride.
5. Green-eyed monster
We get it—you don’t like how chummy your guy is with that sassy hot colleague. But showing your dissatisfaction is one, embarrassing for you, your guy and his friend, and two, a sign of your insecurity in the relationship. Also, if your guy is just being friendly and there’s really nothing going on between him and that colleague (or anyone else for that matter), chances are he’ll be really annoyed with your jealousy, especially if you’ve been accusing him of things!
Find it within yourself to be confident and not to doubt anyone. Besides, he really could have eyes just for you, until you drive him away with your crazy jealous ways.